Obituaries

Anne Campites
B: 1913-09-22
D: 2016-09-24
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Campites, Anne
Patricia McCarthy
B: 1944-12-17
D: 2016-09-24
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McCarthy, Patricia
Mario Borghi
B: 1938-05-18
D: 2016-09-22
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Borghi, Mario
Carol Sardegna
B: 1951-09-13
D: 2016-09-22
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Sardegna, Carol
Robert DeFilippis
B: 1941-03-31
D: 2016-09-20
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DeFilippis, Robert
Kent Knudsen
B: 1938-09-30
D: 2016-09-18
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Knudsen, Kent
Jon Hogden
B: 1928-12-23
D: 2016-09-15
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Hogden, Jon
Mildred Rochlitz
B: 1933-06-04
D: 2016-09-13
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Rochlitz, Mildred
Howard Mouzakes
B: 1930-06-14
D: 2016-09-12
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Mouzakes, Howard
Edward Rosenberg
B: 1954-05-04
D: 2016-09-11
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Rosenberg, Edward
Richard Hajdusek
B: 1959-11-11
D: 2016-09-08
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Hajdusek, Richard
Dennis Ferlin
B: 1950-10-13
D: 2016-09-07
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Ferlin, Dennis
Lester Preston
B: 1956-08-02
D: 2016-09-07
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Preston, Lester
Arthur Seneck
B: 1948-04-06
D: 2016-09-03
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Seneck, Arthur
Gloria Beauchamp
B: 1925-09-21
D: 2016-09-03
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Beauchamp, Gloria
Geraldine Byrnes
B: 1931-08-01
D: 2016-09-02
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Byrnes, Geraldine
Antoinette Cosomano
B: 1920-02-15
D: 2016-09-02
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Cosomano, Antoinette
Sallie R. Engelman
B: 1934-06-06
D: 2016-09-01
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Engelman, Sallie R.
Edwin Batchelor
B: 1933-05-03
D: 2016-09-01
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Batchelor, Edwin
Barbara Rado
B: 1940-07-29
D: 2016-08-30
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Rado, Barbara
George Zangrillo
B: 1925-02-15
D: 2016-08-26
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Zangrillo, George

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