Obituaries

Frances Tedesco
B: 1929-01-08
D: 2016-07-28
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Tedesco, Frances
Dana D'Agostino
B: 1948-05-11
D: 2016-07-27
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D'Agostino, Dana
Ronnie Luba
B: 1942-03-25
D: 2016-07-25
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Luba, Ronnie
Joseph Greene
B: 1933-06-13
D: 2016-07-25
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Greene, Joseph
Vincent Smarrelli
B: 1954-02-25
D: 2016-07-24
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Smarrelli, Vincent
Florence Maggio
B: 1928-03-14
D: 2016-07-24
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Maggio, Florence
Denise Antoinette Rotondi
B: 1994-04-07
D: 2016-07-24
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Rotondi, Denise Antoinette
Maureen Carillo
B: 1943-05-22
D: 2016-07-23
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Carillo, Maureen
Mark Hayes
B: 1956-08-13
D: 2016-07-23
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Hayes, Mark
Paula Fox
B: 1953-07-07
D: 2016-07-22
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Fox, Paula
Joseph Biganini
B: 1962-08-23
D: 2016-07-21
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Biganini, Joseph
Alice "Penny" Schmitt
B: 1921-01-12
D: 2016-07-19
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Schmitt, Alice "Penny"
Louise Sansonette
B: 1925-04-14
D: 2016-07-19
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Sansonette, Louise
Michael Crowe
B: 1954-09-07
D: 2016-07-18
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Crowe, Michael
Donald Betterbed
B: 1963-08-29
D: 2016-07-15
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Betterbed, Donald
Michael Murdolo
B: 1983-06-03
D: 2016-07-15
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Murdolo, Michael
Margaret Moss
B: 1941-08-24
D: 2016-07-14
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Moss, Margaret
Joanne Gaffney
B: 1949-10-28
D: 2016-07-12
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Gaffney, Joanne
Francis Enright
B: 1924-01-12
D: 2016-07-10
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Enright, Francis
Donald Victorson
B: 1929-10-04
D: 2016-07-10
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Victorson , Donald
Thomas Scully
B: 2004-03-03
D: 2016-07-07
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Scully, Thomas

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